Good evening. Hope everyone had a good week.
Relationships come in all shapes, sizes and forms. There are several types of relationships: friendships, family, and romantic. We have all had them, or wish we hadn't. I have come to find, and science has proven, that people are happier when they have a strong support system. I'm sure you all have friends and/or family who you tell everything to. Relationships with others are important because they allow you to express your feelings. Kind of like a therapy session but without the $200 bill. My friends and I go out to wing night at a local restaurant, to catch up on each others' week, to share good or bad news and rant and about work and how stupid men are. This week I also tried to reconnect with friends and family I had lost touch with. This past weekend was the first weekend I've spent with my Dad in over a 2 months. Granted my Dad and I have never had the best relationship, but I now feel closer to him than I did before. It's a nice feeling.
As far as romantic relationships go I'm still looking. I saw a book at Barns and Noble so titled "Dating Makes You Want to Die." Yes it does! Sometimes it's hard to find someone that shares the same values. That's what I'm experiencing right now. I think it's that "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" thing. Sometimes it's like you don't even speak the same language. In college you meet all kinds and it's up to you to sort out which ones are friendship material, which ones are dating material, and which ones are marriage material. And if you are waiting for marriage, like me, it's extremely difficult to find someone else who also wants to wait. I have relatives telling me that I'm too picky. What do they want me to do, date someone that I don't click with? Or just find a "nice guy?" Being nice can only get you so far. What about the other qualities? What about taste in music? Are they going somewhere in life? Are you even compatible? Someone could be the nicest person in the world and you two still may not be compatible. Through all this though, I am glad to say that I am friends with all my exes and, in the words of one of them, "You know what you deserve...Don't settle for anything less." Why settle for someone or something that won't make you happy?
Now for the one thing everyone hates about relationship: when they end. Everyone has been through some kind of break up, and though it is sad to see a good thing come to an end, sometimes it is necessary. I personally have had to bring friendships to an end because of the drama that the other person was causing. These kind of people are called "Toxic Friends," these are not the kind of people you want in your life. As for romantic break ups, I think of it as a "God Blessed the Broken Road." even though it hurts and you think you are never going to love again, you get yourself through it and you are stronger than you were before. You learn from your mistakes, and find someone better than the last.
The fact that relationships can suck is an universal truth, but their advantages definitely outweigh the disadvantages. You learn from mistakes. You kick "Toxic Friends" to the curb and you surround yourself with people that truly care about you and make you happy. And whatever you do, don't settle for anything less.
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